Sex and Information

Dictionary of Sexual & Swinging Terms

AC/DC

Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity; Bi; Bisexual.

 

ADULT

Euphemism for pornographic.

 

ALL CULTURES

Person or couple who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities 

 

AMERICAN CULTURE

Man on top, the missionary position.

 

ANAL SEX

Anal intercourse; see Greek, Greek Culture.

 

ANALINGUS

Oral contact or stimulation of the anus of one partner by kissing, licking, or sucking of the other.

 

ARTS

Euphemism for fetishes; Cultures

 

B&D or B/D

Bondage and discipline; use of various methods to restrain someone while administering discipline, usually done by a "master" to his/her "slave". 

 

BBW

Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their ideal weight, but are still very attractive.

 

BESTIALITY

Sexual activity with animals, usually dogs and women

 

BI

Bisexual, Versatile, AC/DC

 

BI-CURIOUS

A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.

 

BJ

Stimulation of the penis by sucking and licking

 

BONDAGE

A sexual fetish that uses restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered "dominant" while the person being bound is considered "submissive."

 

CAN ENTERTAIN

Willing to invite others to their home for swinging.

 

CAN TRAVEL

Willing to travel to your home to swing.

 

CANING

A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.

 

CHEATING

Sexual activity with others without spouse's knowledge and/or consent.

 

CLEAN

Free of sexually transmitted diseases.

 

CLOSED SWINGING

Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms, usually in the same house. Provides  maximum  privacy.

 

CLOSET SWINGER

A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. 

 

COUPLE

In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together, committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes.

 

CPL

couple

 

CUCKOLD

While the originally meaning is the husband of a wife who cheats, it has come to also mean a husband who's wife plays without him and comes home to tell him about it. It may also mean a husband who watches his wife play with others, or is forced to watch. The roles can also be reversed. 

 

CULTURE

Euphemism for Fetish or Arts.

 

CUNNILINGUS

Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth

 

DILDO

An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus.

 

DIRECTOR

The term used to describe the principal person who runs or  operates a swing club, generally the owner.  A person who works for the director and is responsible for parties or club operations is usually referred to as a manager

 

DISCIPLINE

A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Discipline can include physical punishment of the submissive partner which ranges from physical restraint, to mild spankings, to painful beatings.

 

DISCREET OR DISCRETION

Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity.

 

DOCILE

Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline

 

DOMESTIC TRAINING

Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature.

 

DOMINANT

A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner.

 

ENGLISH CULTURE:

Sexual stimulation from spanking or caning

 

EXHIBITIONIST

Behavior in which an individual experiences sexual arousal or pleasure from displaying his/her body. Someone who enjoys being watched.

 

F

Female

 

FELLATIO

Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth.

 

FETISH

Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy.

 

FLAGELLATION

Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking.

 

FRENCH CULTURE:

Oral-genital sexual activity

 

FUN AND GAMES

Euphemism for sexual activity.

 

GAY

A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian.

 

GBM

Gay Black Male

 

GENEROUS

Refers to money for sex.

 

GREEK CULTURE:

Anal-penile intercourse

 

GROUP ROOM

Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US

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GROUP SEX

Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people.

 

GWM

Gay White Male

 

HARD CORE

A swing party or event where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.

 

HARD SWINGING

A swing party or event where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.

 

HEAD

Oral-genital sexual activity; "Giving head" 

 

HEDONIST

Someone who lives for pleasure.

 

HETEROSEXUAL

Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.

 

HOMOSEXUAL

Sexual attraction to members of the same sex. 

 

HORNY

Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure.

 

HUNG

Refers to a man with a large penis.

 

HWP

Height-Weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight.

 

INDOOR

Swinging activities in general

 

INDOOR SPORTS

Swinging activities in general

 

INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP

Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values.

 

IRL

In Real Life; Used in ads or online chat

 

ISO

In Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female

 

LEATHER

A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing or touching of leather or leather garments.

 

LESBIAN

A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. (see GAY)

 

LTR

Long Term Relationship

 

MARITAL AIDS

Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.

MASOCHISM

Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others.

 

MASTER/SLAVE

Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. 

 

MATROOM

Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term 

 

MEET FOR PLEASURE

Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity.

 

MENAGE A' TROIS

Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. 

 

MORESOMES

More than three people in a swinging interaction.

 

MBC

Married Black Couple

 

MBiC

Married Bisexual Couple

 

MWC

Married White Couple

 

NASCA

The North American Swing Club Association. An association of swing clubs and magazines to promote swinging 

 

NEWCOMERS

New people in swinging; First-timers.

 

NONSMOKER

Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes.

 

OFF-PREMISE

No swinging takes place at the club or party; you meet and make your own arrangements. Great for newcomers.

 

OPEN DOOR

(A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room

 

OPEN SWINGING

A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room. A minimum of privacy.

 

ORAL-GENITAL

Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris or the penis and balls by the mouth 

 

ORGY

Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; Complete absence of inhibition in everyone taking part; group sex.

 

PARTY

Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging.

 

PARTY CLOTHES

Clothing particularly adapted for a swing party wear. Can  include robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds or  other simple wear that is easily removed.

 

PARTY HOUSE 

A non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties.

 

PASSIVE

Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging.

 

PHOTO

Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others.

 

PHOTOGRAPHY

Interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs

 

P/P

Photo and phone number (used in personal ads).

 

PRO

Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.

 

RECREATIONAL SWINGER

A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion; not interested in forming any long term friendship or emotional attachment.

 

RESTRAINT

Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments.

 

ROMAN

Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc 

 

ROMAN CULTURE:

Sexual orgies

 

RUBBER

Condom means of contraception; sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D.

 

SAFE

Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy; Naturally or surgically sterile.

 

SBF

Single Black Female

 

SBiF

Single Bisexual Female

 

SBM

Single Black Male

 

SGL

A swinger without a partner

 

S&M or S/M

Sadism and Masochism 

 

SINGLE

A swinger without a partner, does not refer to marital status.

 

SOCIAL

A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow a social.

 

SOCIAL SWING CLUB

A swing club, a private membership club  that offers social and swinging activities.  Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples .

 

SODOMY

Non-coital, especially anal or oral, copulation with either an opposite sex or same sex partner.

 

SOFT SWINGERS

Couples who only have intercourse with their own partner. No swapping for intercourse.

 

SOFT SWINGING

The term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. The first experience for many couples some type of soft-swinging.

 

SRS

The term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. 

 

STD

Sexually Transmitted Disease. 

 

STR or STR8

Any person who is not interested in engaging in homosexual activity

 

STRAIGHT

Any person who is not interested in engaging in homosexual activity or A person who does not use drugs; also used by swingers to denote non-swinging people.

 

SUBMISSIVE

Passive, wishes to be dominated 

 

SWAPPING

Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity.

 

SWEDISH CULTURE:

Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another

 

SWF

Single White Female

 

SWING MAGAZINE

A periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. 

 

SWINGING

An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners.

 

 SWINGING LIFESTYLE

Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.

 

SWINGING MARRIAGE

Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.

 

SWM

Single White Male

 

TAN

Tested Antibody Negative for HIV virus(AIDS)

 

THREESOME

Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter.

 

TICKET

A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing.

 

TOYS

Sexual aids 

 

TRANSSEXUAL

Individual who has undergone conversion from one gender to another through surgery and hormone treatments; or one who is in the process of gender conversion

 

TRANSVESTITE

A person who receives sexual gratification by wearing clothes identified with the opposite sex; not necessarily homosexual.

 

TRAVEL

(willing to travel to meet)

 

TRIAD

Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.

 

TRIOLISM

Used in personal ads to indicate desire for "threesomes".

 

TUBAL LIGATION

Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. 

 

UTOPIAN SWINGER

A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals.

 

VASECTOMY

Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to artificially sterilize a male.

 

VERSATILE

Bisexual.

 

VIBRATOR

Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. 

 

VOLUPTUOUS

Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips.

 

VOYEUR

A person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts.

 

VOYEURISM

Sexual gratification by watching or peeping at others engaged in sexual activity.